This second time (2 1/2 months ago. Man, time flies!), we told everyone that we weren’t calling anyone until the baby arrived and we got to spend some time with her as a family. We’d worked out arrangements with my mother to keep my oldest while we did the labor and delivery gig. My parents brought her to us after we called, snapped a couple of pictures for us and left until we called them again to come to visit.

It worked out nice and quiet. Perfect for us, but his family makes everything a family affair and I think they were a little miffed that they were excluded until we made the call. It just seemed important to us that we and our older daughter got to meet our newest addition before everyone else.

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It was just myself and my husband (and our midwife and surgical staff…LOL) when my daughter was born. I would NEVER, EVER do it any other way. It was an incredibly intimate moment… he took care of me. He took care of our baby girl while I was being stitched up. It was the beginning of our little family, not a time for anyone else.

Like my mom said… “There were only two of you there when this pregnancy started, so it should just be you two when it ends!”

Hopefully when I talk to her tomorrow everything will be forgotten and no other questions like this will be asked in the future. It just creates very awkward situations!

It’s such a tough situation because I am close to my mom. I think she’s fabulous, but even though we are close, I still only want it to be me, Tarzan, and our little baby. It’s really important to me, so I’ll be sticking to my guns. Maybe I’ll understand what it’s like when I’m a mom of a daughter.

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I don’t quite understand why that generation of mothers seems to be so wrapped up in being around for every ultrasound, appointment, labor & delivery, etc. Is it because their parents weren’t there for theirs? My parents & my in-laws were in the waiting room during my son’s delivery because frankly, miracle or not, I didn’t want anyone to see me down there other than the man who put me in that situation.

As for the second child, no one even knew I had had the baby until 1-2 hours after delivering my daughter when we decided to call everyone. It was so much more relaxed that way! I honestly think that is one of the big reasons my son did not nurse very well. He came out, they cleaned him off, weighed & measured him, and my MIL took him. I didn’t get a chance to nurse him til he was 4 hours old! My daughter on the other hand came out & I nursed her within 20 minutes and she was and is a champion nurser. I got the bonding I so desperately needed. There was no pressure to show off the baby. It was an intimate time for my husband & I, just as it should be. I also had post partum depression with my first, & I really do think it has a lot to do with my bonding experience right after his birth.

If your mother loves you like it sounds like she does, she will respect and support your wishes. If she doesn’t, I really hope she knows how much she’s hurting you and causing you unneeded stress and changes her outlook.

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