Whew, what a busy past couple of days it’s been this week being 21 weeks pregnant. Good thing that the second trimester energy is not a lie because I’m not sure how I would have functioned this past week. My favorite part of being pregnant so far has definitely been this past week. So many milestones have come with being 21 weeks pregnant and it’s been pretty amazing!
First, I wanted to give you a recap about the bachelorette party that I went to. I will admit that it was not as awful as I expected, but it was still pretty boring. Our night started off at dinner and of course I enjoyed the yummy Mexican food! It was my favorite part of the night! Ha, ha!
After dinner we went out to a few bars. This was my least favorite part. I tried to be such a good sport, but really, being in a bar with a bunch of drunk people while pregnant is something that I hope to not do again. I’m not going to lie, the best part was people watching. It’s such a different view being on the sober side of things in a bar.
There were these 2 guys that invited us over to their reserved table and they ordered veuve-clicquot champagne (my fav!). It was a little awkward when they had the waitress pour us all a glass and I told the waitress that I didn’t want any. Who wouldn’t want some clicquot?!
Immediately one of the guys asked why I was not drinking, to which I replied, “I’m pregnant“. Oh.
Then he looked down at my hand and said, “You’re married?“, to which I said, “Yes, I am“. Oh again.
Then he looked around our table to see who else was married/engaged.
Here’s the weirdest part: 3 of us were married, 2 engaged, and 1 in a serious relationship. We were upfront with them that their champagne ordering smoothness, while nice, would not get them anywhere with us… But this didn’t stop them. I ended up leaving at midnight (Tarzan picked me up) and the guys had ordered 3 bottles of champagne at $165 per bottle.
Sorry guys reading this, but what suckers they were! Yes it was nice, but c’mon. (You don’t know how sad it was to not be drinking my fav kind of bubbly for free too.)
In other news, I am the proud owner of a ton of new maternity clothes. With everything going on these past few months, I decided to treat myself to a day of pampering, although it never got to that point. I was far too tired from shopping to get a massage and other things. Gap, Old Navy, and Banana were having the Friends and Family 30% discount coupon and I fully took advantage of it.
I took a lot of y’alls advice about pregnancy jeans and bought some from Gap. I LOVE THEM!
You all were right; they are so completely awesome and I recommend them to all pregnant ladies. I bought 3 pairs and a couple of really cute shirts from Gap. I got some fun summer dresses from Old Navy, not maternity though, which I hope doesn’t come to bite me in the a$$ in the next few months.
The maternity section at my Old Navy is just awful, so I ventured off into the “regular” section because the dresses caught my eye. I tried on mediums and they were close to fitting my bump, so I ended up getting larges instead. You know, to grow in. I also got some great shirts at Motherhood too!
The best part about being pregnant is the fact that I seem to bond with other pregnant girls in the maternity section whenever I go. Before getting pregnant, I never cared about meeting new friends while shopping. I was on a mission and that was that. Well, it’s all changed since being pregnant. I need pregnant friends that know what I’m going through and even though I’ve begged all of my friends to get knocked up, it’s just not happening.
Anyways, I made a friend while shopping. She was totally nice and informative about all things baby. She completely understood my (silly) questions about clothes and she even helped me pick sizes of shirts. The smalls fit just right, so she suggested that I get mediums to accommodate my growing bump. She was awesome and I ended up leaving the store with a piece of paper with her number on it. Now I just need to remember to call her so that we can do lunch or something…
My baby shower has been brought up and I didn’t even need to take any of the great suggestions that you ladies made. I was talking to one of my friends the other day and she asked me if I thought June was too late and if I could pick some dates for her. Yay!! I love that I didn’t have to even bring it up or wonder about it anymore. Nothing has been set in stone, but she already looked at invitations and I need to get a list over to her soon. I’m so excited that my friends came through… I knew that they had it in them!
Another great thing about being 21 weeks pregnant is the love I have for Tarzan. Now, I don’t want to become a sap, but something that happened to me lately. Obviously, I’ve always loved my husband. I did marry him after all… but you know how my pregnancy hormones have been in the past. Those hormones have gone from getting pissed off very easily to being very lovey dovey like all of the time.
It’s a mixture of weirdness and awesomeness all in one. As you know, we have a really great relationship/marriage. I am so proud of him on many different levels and I love that I’m carrying his baby. This pregnancy has deepened my love for him and him for me. I’ve always heard that the types of people who think pregnancy will make them closer are very wrong because it’s quite the opposite. Pregnancy hormones make it hard. Money makes it hard. The change of having a baby makes it hard.
Well, so far pregnancy has made us closer. Maybe it just depends on the kind of relationship that you have prior to getting pregnant, but we are so in love with each other and this pregnancy is what is to be credited for that. We’ve shared our lives with you all since getting our BFP, so you know it hasn’t been an easy ride this whole time. Difficult times or not, we’ve bonded and been a team throughout it all, and I’m just so grateful that we have that kind of a relationship. It’s comforting and really nice and I can only imagine what it will be like in the weeks to come!
In addition to expressing my love, you can bet that I’ve been “showing” it too. That part of our relationship has definitely bounced up and it’s really great! So, have no fear if you are pregnant and your sex drive is slim to none. Mine was that way until reaching 21 weeks pregnant and now it’s the completely opposite!
And perhaps the coolest, most amazing thing that has taken place this week in my pregnancy is the fact that I finally felt the baby move. While it’s not a full kicking feeling just yet, I’ll take what I can get and I’m very happy with feeling him daily. It’s so nice and something that I could never have imagined guessing what it would be like.
I’ve never been able to relate to “flutters”, but now that I’ve felt him, it’s a proper definition. It’s like a carbonated feeling. Or bubbles. It’s pretty damn awesome and I cannot wait for Tarzan to feel him from the outside!
I guess I’ll leave you with my latest pregnant brain happening. Last night I came home from getting takeout at PF Chang’s and apparently we slept with the garage open all night long. I could have sworn that I closed it – I mean, I always do. Tarzan didn’t open it, so it had to be me.
Oops!
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So glad to hear you are feeling good Jane! The second trimester was my favourite too. I think it's true that pregnancy can bring a couple closer, but only if you have a good, close relationship to begin with. I think it's when people think a pregnancy will somehow "fix" a bad relationship that everything falls apart completely. It's like adding fuel to a fire, you know?
Aren't the 'flutters' the greatest thing? I remember lying still on my side and barely breathing just so I could focus on them and feel them more and more. It's so exciting imagining your little guy in there kicking around! :-)
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