Comments on: A trip to the grocery store brings tears of sadness and joy

By: Jess

Jess — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 22:35:52 +0000

Stay positive!!! I am convinced that a BIG part of how we ended up with such a happy baby is b/c I didn’t worry about hardly anything during my pregnancy. I was sort of blissfully unaware of anything that could go wrong…all the way thru my 41 weeks of pregnancy and 39 hours of labor, didn’t worry. My husband is super fortunate (can fall into a pile of garbage and come up smelling like roses kind of fortunate) and kept me positive all the time. Matilda is our happy little accident…I couldn’t have planned it any better and she is an absolute joy to be around! Enjoy every minute!!

By: Tarzan

Tarzan — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 15:20:29 +0000

NeedsAStickyBaby – Jane just told me about your post and your loss and I wanted to also say that I am so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are also with you and your husband.

Tarzan

By: Jane

Jane — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 15:14:41 +0000

I appreciate all of the comments on here and you all are so right!

Needs a sticky baby – I’m so so so sorry. I hope that you and your husband are doing ok. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I’m just so sorry that you experienced that. I do wish you the best.

By: NeedsASticky Baby

NeedsASticky Baby — Tue, 24 Mar 2009 02:33:13 +0000

I lost my baby last week at 15 weeks 2 days because she had Turner’s syndrome. A manifestation from the cystic hygroma she was diagnosed with. Most babies with Turners result in a misscarriage. It’s odd, My sister in law lost a baby in August due to a cystic hygroma, that and the malformed umblical was the reason for her. So the same ultrasound diagnosis and 2 different outcomes. Shes going to fly in from out east this summer so her, her husband, me and my husband can see if its genetically linked. The only good news in all of this is that what we had is unlikely to repeat itselfs in us. My OB (my mom) said that women build something like an immunity to it.
I still feel like I am in another world even though I expected the loss for three weeks after I found out my baby had the same thing that caused my sister in law to miscarry her little girl. At least I got to know my baby was a girl and name her, Elizabeth Ann, my darling angel.

By: Helen

Helen — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 15:50:08 +0000

When I had my children I had no idea how lucky I was to get pregnant so easily. I never worried much about things like miscarrying. I can’t imagine how heartbreaking it must be to want a child and not be able to conceive, or to lose a pregnancy at any stage. That’s what makes this blog even more special– because all of the wonder of it will be recorded for little Tarzan to read one day. I hope T & J continue the blog for many years so that little T will be able to look back and read about his early life. I wish I’d done something like this for my children.
I wrote a little ‘look back’ about my son’s birth on my blog the other day (Mar 21 is his birthday) Childrens’ birthdays are like anniversaries for parents- they bring back all kinds of memories…it’s a wonderful time no matter what the circumstances.

By: MVP

MVP — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 22:58:23 +0000

Yes, we’re VERY blessed. I feel so fortunate and thank God every day for our tiny blessing.
We miscarried twice last year. It was the worst and best year of my life all at the same time because of the losses and then the joy involved in the beginning of this pregnancy. I’ve never been thru anything so difficult. I could barely stop crying for days and days at a time, let alone be very functional. This was after we’d tried to get preg for quite awhile. I really didn’t enjoy seeing other pregnant women, and honestly I was bitter when I heard the stories of pregnant teenagers and women who got pregnant on accident or the first month they started trying. Life didn’t seem fair.
But, honestly, those experiences taught me a lot about life and love and death. We are so appreciative for every day we have with this little one. And I’m always here to help others going thru infertility or miscarriage. I’m much more aware of the fragility of life now.
Actually, I believe our first m/c baby had Turner’s syndrome. She also only had one X chromosome, which is what Turner’s is. That poor woman. But I bet she’ll be the best mommy in the world to her adoptive kids someday.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 15:16:04 +0000

I commend you for being so caring towards the woman at the grocery store. Infertility is a heart-breaking thing to go through. My heart goes out to that woman because I know the pain she is going through. And yes, you are a very lucky woman. I too wish that I could just get pregnant. I, personally, have to get surgery to fix my infertility (which will be happening soon). But I love coming here and reading your stories of your pregnancy journey. Reminds me of what I have to look forward to soon!

Just don’t ever take being pregnant for granted. It is truly a blessing.

By: Chanda

Chanda — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 13:40:13 +0000

OOPS..I meant to say that the drug Femara works for those that Clomid didn’t work for and those with ovulation issues. I swear I read my previous post before I submitted it but oh well, human.

By: Chanda

Chanda — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 13:37:23 +0000

We are fortunate. I wrote once berfore and mentioned that I have a son that is almost 14. My husband and I suffered with infertility for YEARS!!! After 5 years of some expensive infertility treatments, we conceived on our 2nd try of a drug call Femara. (I only mention the drug so that maybe someone out there will find a little hope…this drug tends to work for those that clomid and basic ovulation issues). Plus, I’m just pregnant with one which is a bonus (to me atleast).
Anywho, I would like to say that when you pray for those that are dealing with infertility and such…pray that they gain some acceptance to enjoy the things they do have in life already. It’s going to sound cliche but I got to a point where I realized how lucky I was already in life and had told my husband that we had 6 months and then I was done with trying to conceive. I am ecstatic that I’m pregnant, can’t wait for this baby…..and it’s made all the better because I already had a pretty good thing going.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 04:44:24 +0000

I always took for granted that I would have children and not have any complications along the way. Then I got pregnant a few years ago and miscarried. Now, I don’t take anything about this pregnancy for granted. Each week I make it is a huge deal because I wasn’t sure I would get this far. I’m 19 weeks now and sometimes can’t believe it! I always feel for women that have fertility problems or can get pregnant but have problems carrying the baby to term. All of us pregnant ladies are very lucky, and the best part is we know it!