Comments on: You can just call me “Fat Cousin Itt” (pregnancy weight related)

By: tjwriter

tjwriter — Sat, 30 May 2009 02:16:45 +0000

I’m glad someone else mentioned what I’ve dubbed The Postpartum Shed.

Your body hangs onto the hair the last few weeks of pregnancy so that, if you are accustomed to losing a lot of hair in the shower, that suddenly stops. However, soon after you give birth (four months exactly for both kids), you body will rid itself of all that hair its being hanging onto. Suddenly, you’ll be pulling out handfuls of hair when you brush, shower, etc. It’s a little nerve-wracking at first, but completely normal. Eventually it tapers off and things return to about normal. (Each pregnancy will leave its own permanent changes on your body.)

I never really looked pregnant with either baby, so I ended up just looking really fat the whole time.

By: Leanna

Leanna — Thu, 28 May 2009 19:02:30 +0000

I swore up and down that I wouldn’t feel bad about my body while pregnant. I said, “I will be pregnant, I will gain as much weight as I gain, and I will work it off healthfully after the baby is born.” That lasted until five months when new stretch marks starting appearing every morning and my previously perky breasts could rest comfortably on my stomach. That’s when the tears came.

As I’ve been trying to work through this, feel cute, etc., strangers have decided that it would be a fun game to say, “You must be having twins!” or ask me when my due date is and then respond with, “Wow, that’s going to be a big baby.” HELLO!?!? How do you think these are good things to say to someone!? Why not just say, “Wow, you’re a fat cow.” or something. It’d basically have the same effect.

I am truly blessed to have a husband who tells me I’m beautiful on a daily basis, and I try to hang onto his words. But, when they’re followed by a flow of people commenting on how large my stomach is (and followed by my catching a glimpse of my ever expanding butt in the mirror), the words, “You are so beautiful.” just don’t seem to remain in my head.

By: Are you calling me fat? : mums-a-musing.com

Are you calling me fat? : mums-a-musing.com — Thu, 28 May 2009 16:21:51 +0000

[...] I know, I know, I’m pregnant, but I still feel rather large. I feel larger than I’ve ever felt in my entire life. In fact, I am larger than I’ve ever been in my entire life. It’s a hard pill to swallow. (…read more) [...]

By: Helen

Helen — Tue, 26 May 2009 13:52:36 +0000

Aren’t those random compliments great? I’ll bet you ‘do’ look gorgeous! Isn’t it a shame that we can’t see ourselves how others do? I think we really are our own worst critics. Never fear though- breastfeeding is the best ‘diet’ I’ve ever been on in my life! I gained around 40 pounds with my first child, and I think I was down 45 pounds about 2 months later– no word of a lie!
I read somewhere that breastfeeding expends up to 1000 calories per day. Imagine if you were nursing twins. You’d have to eat like a truck driver just to keep up.

Anyway, lovely to see the new belly pics. Your little bump looks great!!

By: MVP

MVP — Mon, 25 May 2009 18:06:31 +0000

Ugh, I hear ya! I feel like such a whale. Last night, it took me a full 3 minutes to roll over and get out of bed to pee! My arms look pudgy and I have the loveliest love handles going on. At least I have an excuse right now. I’m just terrified they’re not going to disappear after the baby’s born. I’m praying I’m one of those who lose the weight quickly with breast feeding. Only time will tell…

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 25 May 2009 16:40:48 +0000

Emily – I remember that stage and feel your pain. I hated all of the bloat! Since it’s summer, you can wear a loose fitting dress or a maxi so that you don’t feel like a stuffed sausage. Dresses or skirts come in handy for sure! You could also buy some pants in a larger size or maternity ones and use the bella band to hold them up. I did this and it worked great! I think you’ll really like your bella band.

Being that I work from home, I was able to wear lounge type of clothes during the day without having to worry about what to wear. It was most comfortable for me and I lived in that type of clothing.

I hope this helps! Pretty soon you’ll have a bump and you won’t feel as fat as you feel now. I can’t promise that the fat feeling goes away in the 3rd trimester though – You just wait.

By: Emily

Emily — Mon, 25 May 2009 15:19:19 +0000

I started following you on twitter and love reading your blog!! I am 10 weeks pregnant, but all of my clothes are tight and all I look is FAT. What did you wear during this in-between phase?! I cried yesterday morning because I couldn’t find anything to wear but a big, baggy t-shirt. And sweat pants. I just ordered a bella band, but it hasn’t come yet.. I’m hoping it helps?! Any tips?!

By: Shana

Shana — Mon, 25 May 2009 12:24:40 +0000

OMG! I so feel you on this post!!! I cried over the weekend because of how huge I felt (unfortunately it was while my husband was trying to get me in the mood for sex…so much for that!). I look in the mirror and all I see is HUGE. I get the “you’re so pretty pregnant,” “you’re glowing” etc….but I don’t see it. All I see is a baby growing in my belly plus extra ones in my arms and butt. AND I would like my ankles back please! I recently saw some friends of mine who I haven’t seen in a year (since my wedding when I was nice and toned) and after we said our goodbyes I got a text that said I looked really good. I was surprised at how much I needed to hear that. So….you are right, spread the love to all pregnant ladies. I am sure we all need it!

By: Crysi

Crysi — Mon, 25 May 2009 04:48:57 +0000

I’m one of the lucky ones who gains almost all the weight in the belly, but I’ve never been a skinny girl either. My face still gets the weight gain first, which I HATE. I think what’s bothering me the most right now is the acne and body hair. It just doesn’t end and makes me feel super insecure.

I’m warning you about after baby though, your hair will go bonkers. I’ve still been losing some hair throughout this pregnancy, but last time, I thought I was going bald after Adia was born. It just kept falling out! It doesn’t help when you have a small baby using it as a hand hold either.

By: DAS's Wife

DAS's Wife — Mon, 25 May 2009 03:44:09 +0000

I can completely understand this feeling. Except along with the weight, pregnancy kicked my genetic condition into overdrive, so I’m learning how to deal with being in leg braces, a back brace, and sometimes a wheelchair. But I guess its good practice for the rest of my life, kind of a “sink or swim” deal lol.

Its just a little much sometimes, but then yeah, you do go out in public and see people “silently cheering you on”, and its a good feeling. Plus, having a rocking husband helps too!

You’ll get through it, its hard sometimes, but hey, in just a couple weeks, the baby will pop out and the “baby fat” will fall off you. Especially if you’re breastfeeding, which I think I remember you blogging before.

Stay Strong!