Comments on: How does one prepare to be a father?

By: Baby Cots

Baby Cots — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 23:31:34 +0000

I’m about to be a dad in 6 months….not sure if I’ll be ready when that time comes

By: kc

kc — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 16:44:04 +0000

Tarzan,

Great post, glad to hear someone is going through the exact same things. I often find myself sitting in the nursery trying to imagine life on the other side. I’m come to the conclusion that you can’t really ever be ready. While I found the shear panic of first finding out (we are at 38 weeks now) has grown into excitement which has now growing into “let’s get this show on the road I’m tired of talking about it”, I’ve found it odd that any time you express any anxiety to anyone about life after a baby they all immediately dismiss it.

While I’m sure they are all correct in that it will be the greatest thing you ever do (but, what if I find myself planting an atomic bomb into the side of an asteroid deflecting it from a collision course with earth and hence saving all of humanity…. not likely, but they don’t KNOW it won’t happen) it doesn’t get rid of the concern that life will never be the same and maybe you’ll miss the old life.

Anyways, great post, fun site, best of luck!

By: Melissa Parlaman (Graco Contributor)

Melissa Parlaman (Graco Contributor) — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:22:56 +0000

that is a great post. i actually started to cry. i think it is because i have the pregnancy hormones coursing through me as well. my husband is about to be a dad for the second time. i know he is really scared since he doesn’t know how he will juggle working full time, taking care of me, the house & our two daugthers (the first one being VERY reliant on her daddy).

you have so many good things to look forward to–my daughter loves her daddy so much–she found a picture of us during my first baby shower & she kissed the picture of her dad saying that she loved him. She said she wanted to bring the picture to school for show & tell so they can see her daddy (she is 3 years old). i asked her who else is in the picture & she said Mommy. I asked her if she wants to show everyone the picture of me too and she replied, curtly, sure. No appreciation!!! I guess Dads Rule.

By: Tarzan

Tarzan — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:22:05 +0000

Jenny: LOL! Duck and cover moves? Uh ohhhh…. more things I have not considered or even thought about!

Bobby: Nice to have another dad-to-be stop by! It’s a strange feeling. The anticipation is building up to meet our son and there is a matched anticipation for knowing I’m going to soon feel something I’ve never felt before. This is a wild ride – in many, many, many, many ways!

By: Bobby

Bobby — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 13:49:56 +0000

Tarzan,
My wife sent me a link to your posting. I sympathize with you. As Dads-to-be, we do not have the ramp up of hormones, feeling the kicks, etc. Feeling and watching the tummy move are great but more a curiosity than a bonding moment. I’m with you… stay supportive and try to be prepared for feelings beyond what we can currently comprehend.
A friend of mine sent me a video a few weeks back. I added it to my wife’s blog. It’s Sprite commercial of all things but it showed what a man will do for that bond.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 12:26:51 +0000

You two are too cute. One suggestion…as you are thinking of all the cute and cuddly things you will do with the little guy, practice your duck and cover moves as well. Those boys like to share in the fun with diaper changing. So go ahead, step up to the changing table and practice some bob and weave or quick grab of extra diapers/burp rags to cover the essential areas of his anatomy.

Enjoy the last few weeks of reflection – they are important but go too fast.

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 02:51:00 +0000

LOL, I promise I won’t. I’ll probably sneak down when y’all are having boy time and try to videotape the moment because it’ll be so cute. Just teach him that cleaning up is part of the fun too. Ha, ha.

By: Tarzan

Tarzan — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 02:48:18 +0000

Awwe, thanks beautiful Pregnant Jane. I love you so much and I can’t wait to see you holding our little Tarzan, too. You’re going to be a GREAT mom – there’s no doubt about that!

Just don’t get mad at us when Tarzan Jr. and I make a mess in the kitchen making homemade volcanos explode, or when we stay out too late catching frogs together down by the pond.

By: Jane

Jane — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 02:26:03 +0000

Aw. You are going to be such a wonderful dad and I’m so glad that we are entering in this special, but kind of scary time together. I hope that our son grows up to be just like you and I cannot wait to see you holding him. Talk about a new kind of love that I can’t even imagine.

You are such a great guy and I am so lucky to have you as my husband You will kick ass as a dad and I can’t wait to see you. I love you.