Comments on: 37 weeks pregnant: Finally saw “The Business of Being Born”

By: Candice

Candice — Fri, 14 May 2010 07:29:11 +0000

Me and hubby have seen that movie at least 3 times together (and the last time, he chose it)….I’m 18 weeks now and have already been to my local birthing center (The Birth and Women’s Center in Dallas) and I’m soooooooooo excited.

Sure this is not my first pregnancy but when I watched that movie about a year ago, I knew for sure that the birthing center would be our only and final option. I’m not going to risk the health of my newborn on rouge doctors. The first pregnancy the doctor threatened me that if I didn’t push hard enough that he’d take me to go get a c-section… O_o (umm, okay then…) I never forgot that….nazi germany anyone???

Anyway, I’m very happy with the choice to use a midwife….they aren’t some old witches from the middle ages or voo doo queens..or retired hippie (as seen in that J Lo Movie, The BackUp Plan…oh gawd…how distorted is that??) No, mine is so darn nice and sweet…..treats me like I’m like a Hollywood star. And let’s not forget that my insurance is covering the majority of the cost, so our bill is only $2500.00 or so which includes all visits and delivery….yeah, good for me AND THE ECONOMY!!! A win, win situation.

I can’t wait to deliver….they will put imprints of my little one’s feet on the wall to memorialize the center….and dad is the first and only one to hold the baby as they take their first breath….so it will be a special moment for him…..

This movie, changed our lives and it’s my hope that it will revolutionalize the way women give birth in the US….I’m only in my twenties and I GET IT!!!!

“Go Ricki, Go Ricki…” (from her days of being a talk show host…lmao)

By: Emily

Emily — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 02:03:47 +0000

I haven’t seen the movie, so I can’t comment on that, but I just wanted to toss out there that you can have awesome experiences with MD’s too. I delivered my son a month ago in a hospital, with no pain medication, and I had the options of walking around with my mom and husband, sitting on a birthing ball, or laying in bed- and I used all three! My doctor is a family doctor, not an OB-GYN, so he’s still taking care of me and my son. He was very supportive throughout the pregnancy and labor & delivery, always reiterating that this was my show, and he is there to support my decisions. The nurses were awesome, and the care afterwards great too- I was supported in my choice to breastfeed, to have my son stay in the room with me, etc.

So, I guess my point is that it’s not necessarily about where you give birth or midwife vs. MD. I think a hospital, birthing center, or home can give you a good or bad experience, it just depends on a lot of other factors. The biggest thing to help make sure you have a good experience in my opinion is to not be totally set on exactly how your birth will happen- be flexible and open minded so you don’t end up disappointed if it doesn’t happen “how you planned” because it hardly ever does!!

By: Machelle

Machelle — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 21:35:36 +0000

First of all I have been following your blog every since I found you on The Motherhood. I love coming home from work and while I am whinding down reading your blog. I never would have thought about blogging about the day to day things that go on in the pregnancy. I think the best one yet was when Tarzan left without telling you and he went for the test drive. I laughed so hard I cried.

As for the Business of being Born…I watched the dvd before my husband and I started trying. I loved the movie! It was a real eye opener…the whole c section things scared me! I wondered about that a lot especially since I am addicted to all things baby…A Baby Story…Bringing Home Baby…Deliver Me….and all of the shows had a common theme…there were A LOT of c sections being preformed. I like the idea of a hospital birth with a midwife. I want to be the one in control and I fear for any doctor who gets in my way. I can’t bring myself to go to a Birthing Center, not when I can’t stay overnight. I need the extra time. But that is just me.

I agree with you Jane. I think Michael’s death was a tragedy. My heart goes out to his family especially for his kids. I love the fact that you mentioned him. I hope all goes well for you. I look forward to reading about it.

By: Leanna

Leanna — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:44:36 +0000

While my husband and I were already pretty sure we wanted a home birth, The Business of Being Born pretty much sealed the deal for us. A home birth just fit so well with our views of pregnancy and birth. Plus, the cost is a lot easier to stomach.

However, the decision was made easier by the fact that my husband’s sister has had two home births. So, we already had a midwife that we knew was trustworthy (we had each been to a birth of my SIL’s and got to see the midwife in action). Plus, this midwife does home births at HER house, and she lives just around the corner from a hospital. So, we basically have an ideal home birth setup, in my opinion. I honestly don’t think the decision would have been as easy if the situation was different.

I do believe that each woman should always go with whatever makes her more comfortable. I’ve heard time and again that labor is so much easier (and even safer) when the mom is comfortable and without fear. So, while I think home birth is an extra fantastic choice, I would never try to convince one of my hospital-bound friends to have a home birth instead.

Lastly, one of the previous comments mentioned that epidurals and pitocin pretty much go hand in hand. That is my understanding as well, so you might want to research it or ask your OB. The issue is that an epi will slow things down, so they give you pitocin to speed things back up again, which sometimes makes labor too hard and rough on the baby, so they up your epi dose, etc. Just something to think about!

By: Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:01:02 +0000

I was able to find a midwife practice that delived in the hospital with both of my pregnancies, in 2 different states. It was a wonderful combination. I had the mental security of being in a hospital ane the freedoms that a midwife provides- laboring not only in a bed, the encouragement and support they provide. I did not tear with either birth annd that is because of their car in massaging the area and making things streach naturally instead of it being a whole forceful procedure. Birth need not be scary. It was definatly HARD WORK, but not scary.
*On a note to those mothers that did have a scary delivery, some with sad outcomes, my heart reaches out to you. Everytime I read of a frightning birth story, feel like I should apologise for having two normal deliveries.
I like to encourage mothers to research midwives, they are wonderful people and I hope their practice is not driven out by too much modern medicine. I know women that had their MD’s take complete control over the delivery room and their birth experience is nothing but horror. From being yelled at, rushed, and told they were doing things on an inconvient day, ect..I just hope those were the minority.

By: MeMaRose

MeMaRose — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:58:21 +0000

There is nothing more exciting than meeting your child for the first time; whether it be your first or third. Babies just bring so much joy and love into your whole family. I have two children of my own and I had them totally natural (ouch) only for the simple fact that I was right with you on the drugs. I was scared that they would harm my baby and I did not want to be “tied” down in bed so to speak. On the other hand, my daughter and daughter-in-law have both gone with midwives with the births of my beautiful granddaughters and they were the best. I was fortunate to be with my daughter from beginning to end with her pregnancy and boy….what an experience! It sure is different being on the coaching end (was glad to be there though). The bedside manners of the midwives was awesome and so personal. They seemed to make everything go smoothly and explained everything from beginning to end until the baby was born. If I had to do it again (which I will not) that is the route I would choose. I loved them and they were very helpful and very knowledgeable also. There was a pediatrician doctor on duty just in case the midwife needed one. Everyone has their own trust in doctors and as long as you have that with your OB; I am sure everything will be just fine. So excited for you….your baby boy is going to have a great welcome into this world!!! Good luck and keep us posted ;o)

By: keyalus

keyalus — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:24:25 +0000

Love your blog and I’ve been following along since I found you!

I finally caught that movie the other night too and it pretty much went along with a lot of the things that I’ve been reading. I want a natural/drug-free childbirth, but I don’t really want a homebirth. I hope that I get what I want. I guess I’ll find out in 9 weeks!

You mentioned that you are fearful of pitocin but want an epidural. You might want to do your own research, but from all I’ve read, two pretty much go hand in hand. Epidurals tend to slow down labor/contractions so they will likely give you pitocin to keep things on track. It is part of the “cascade of interventions” they talk about in the movie. Of course with the drugs, you won’t feel the intense pitocin generated contractions, but I just thought I should mention it.

By: Chrystal

Chrystal — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:53:32 +0000

That movie was actually what convinced my husband that a homebirth was the right path for us. Prior to him seeing the movie (well before we were pregnant, but while we were planning on getting pregnant soon), he was dead against it. After the movie, he warmed up to the idea. Midwives don’t practice in hospitals here and we have no birthing centers so it was either hospital or illegal homebirth. Like you, I’ve had a very healthy pregnancy so a homebirth has been a viable option for me, despite the legal/logistical hurdles in my state. I feel so blessed to have that one-on-one attention from my midwife and I think that a lot of that has made me feel comfortable with the idea of childbirth. (And yes, our medical costs have been less than $4,000.) I am praying that these last 3 weeks (or so) are free from complications and that my birth is the natural, comfortable event I am dreaming of.

If you’re a reader, you might want to check out the book “Baby Catcher” by Peggy Vincent. It is a book written by a midwife who has practiced in both hospitals and at home. Definitely another interesting look at childbirth in America.

By: bessie.viola

bessie.viola — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:45:45 +0000

I’ve heard of this and may need to watch it now, though I’m not pregnant. My daughter was born via c-section (emergency, unplanned) and it’s surprising how the majority of people (including my husband) assume that’s I’ll just schedule the birth next time. I’m still undecided… my experience left me doubting my body, so I worry about the right choice. I read and see things like this, and I wonder what it would be like the other way, and I think I’d like to know. Definitely lots to think about!

I hope you’re still feeling well – so exciting that you’re so close! My water broke at 37w3d – can’t wait to hear that you’ve had the baby!

By: Emily F.

Emily F. — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 14:08:21 +0000

I watched the Business of Being Born very early in my pregnancy- I think I was 2 or 3 months pregnant. It honestly scared the shit out of me. Nothing has traumatized me in so long. Watching all of those mothers giving birth at home, moaning, in the nude, squatting….watching that one woman squatting on the floor and then the fluid all comes out, I don’t know, it really wrecked me. I even had nightmares for weeks, and would wake up in a cold sweat. I don’t know why it affected me so badly. One could argue that I’ve grown up in a world where birth has been sanitized and made into a medical problem. HOwever, I think it is a more gutteral reaction. It isn’t that I think birth is gross, its just I don’t think it’s beautiful in the physical sense- tearing, blood, fluid…I know it is a beautiful experience for many women in the transcendant sense, and I’ll find out for myself in a few months. But I know that women can still die in childbirth. It may not be a medical problem, but problems can arise during birth and delivery, and this movie made me think of the time when women didn’t have access to proper medical care and died during childbirth. It scared me so badly.
I think we need to reintroduce the midwife into the hospital, and let the midwife and doctor work together to deliever babies, and we need to have more options for women at the hospital, so it isn’t so “medical.” But, we need to still be in the hospital, in my opinion, for the rare, outside chance that something does go wrong. I don’t know. I’ll now more about childbirth in 3 months, I ‘ll let you know if I’ve changed my mind.