RARE: A peak inside the secret life of Tarzan and Jane

Warning: Tarzan’s soft side is coming out here… OK, maybe it’s not much of a secret, but Jane and I are crazy about each other and have been since the first day we met.  Sure, like all couples we have our disagreements and heck, even an argument or two (or many, many more when those pregnancy hormones were kicking into high gear!), but I truly believe what we have is so powerful and so special.

We’ve both worked from home together for several years and have been fortunate enough to be able to wake up together, have breakfast, lunch, and dinner together everyday.  Over the years I’ve told that to male friends or acquaintances – the fact that my wife and I are together all the time, and many of them say something like, “I feel sorry for you” or “Oh wow, I couldn’t do that, my wife and I would drive each other crazy!”

I honestly feel bad for those people because they are obviously missing out on a part of life that I truly feel fortunate to have found: a real and true soulmate in Jane.

Now don’t get me wrong or misunderstand me.  We’re not weirdos who can’t do anything on our own – far from it.  We give each other all the space the other needs.  I’m more independent and require more “me time” and often go to the park, the bookstore, escape to play poker every once in awhile, and just do my thing.

Just as I know my “me time” is important for me, I know Jane also needs her own time.  She runs errands, goes to the bookstore to read some magazines and sips a coffee or tea, meets friends or family for lunch, and has her own independent side of her life as well.  But the important thing here is that we both know how important that time is and we never have run into any issues there.

Pregnancy brought us even closer.  Speaking of which, I just found this movie clip of the Disney movie, “Tarzan and Jane” that I never knew existed!  :)

While we were going through the whole pregnancy journey together, I had never really thought about if the journey would bring us closer or keep us the same.  Well, there’s no doubt it has brought us even closer.  The respect I have for Jane and how proud I am of her is through the roof.  Pregnancy made us much closer and having a son brought us even closer again.

I’m such a lucky guy to have found someone so beautiful, so loving, so caring, so supportive, and so wonderful to love me as much as Jane does.  I love her right back with the same force – that continues to grow each and every single day.

And not to get cheesy on you guys, I wanted to share an email I see Jane had sent me a few hours ago, along with my reply…

On Aug 2, 2009, at 10:33 PM, Jane HisBoysCanSwim.com wrote:

just a quick note to tell you that you are doing an awesome job as a dad.  i love
seeing you with little (Monkey) and it makes my heart smile.  thanks for being an
awesome husband, a fantastic dad, and letting me fall more and more in love
with you daily.

i love you.

—

And my reply back to Jane was…

Awe babe, thank you. I love you so much and I’m so proud
of you.  You are so strong, so wonderful, so beautiful, and so
loving.  I love seeing you with our son and how you look at
him and give him kisses.

He loves his mommy A LOT!  :)

Love you beautiful

—

Jane and I say “I love you” to each other many, many times a day.  We never go to bed angry at one another.  And we make a great time.  Like many couples, we’ve been though a lot, we’ve been though some tough times, stood by each other and have always been there for one another.

What we have is special – and I hope that our son Monkey finds a love like his parents share someday.  When two people are this in love, we really feel like anything is possible – and it is.  And I’m so excited to be starting this new chapter of our lives together – a life with our little Monkey.

So why am I sharing all of this with you today?

Because life speeds by us too quickly.  Sometimes you just have to hit the pause button and remember to tell your husband or wife that you love them a few times a day.  Let them know how you feel about them.  Let them know that you care.  And it doesn’t have to be anything expensive.  In fact, some of the best things you can do cost nothing.

For example, last night when Jane and I went to bed I just laid there and looked into her eyes while stroking her face and hair softly for a couple of minutes.  Neither of us said a word.  We just laid there enjoying being together.  In fact, shortly after I got up (Jane was always awake because she had to feed Monkey) Jane told me how much she loved how I just stroked her hair and cheek the night before, how sweet it was, and how much she loved me.

Everyday I tell Jane that she is beautiful.

Everyday I’m excited to see her in the morning.

Everyday I fall more and more love with her.

Everyday I realize how special of a woman Jane is.

And now everyday I’m so proud and happy to have Jane as Monkey’s mommy.

Jane is my everything and I love her so much.

So do something special for your husband or wife today – just because you love them.  Buy some flowers, cook a special dinner, get a sappy card and write something nice in it.  Or just hug them tighter than you have ever hugged them before.  Do something.  Anything.  Just because you love them.

You might also want to read:

1. Our Baby Feeding Schedule: A day in the life of Tarzan, Jane, and Monkey. Welcome to no sleepville.
2. No More Fuzzy Pictures For Jane, Tarzan, And Monkey
3. Yes, the rumors are true… There’s a penis growing inside of me!
4. Pregnancy emotions gone wild: Jane cried this morning and I just want her to know…
5. Pregnancy Week 23 Pregnant Belly Picture And Yes, Tarzan Is Here.

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