Warning: Tarzan’s soft side is coming out here… OK, maybe it’s not much of a secret, but Jane and I are crazy about each other and have been since the first day we met. Sure, like all couples we have our disagreements and heck, even an argument or two (or many, many more when those pregnancy hormones were kicking into high gear!), but I truly believe what we have is so powerful and so special.
We’ve both worked from home together for several years and have been fortunate enough to be able to wake up together, have breakfast, lunch, and dinner together everyday. Over the years I’ve told that to male friends or acquaintances – the fact that my wife and I are together all the time, and many of them say something like, “I feel sorry for you” or “Oh wow, I couldn’t do that, my wife and I would drive each other crazy!”
I honestly feel bad for those people because they are obviously missing out on a part of life that I truly feel fortunate to have found: a real and true soulmate in Jane.
Now don’t get me wrong or misunderstand me. We’re not weirdos who can’t do anything on our own – far from it. We give each other all the space the other needs. I’m more independent and require more “me time” and often go to the park, the bookstore, escape to play poker every once in awhile, and just do my thing.
Just as I know my “me time” is important for me, I know Jane also needs her own time. She runs errands, goes to the bookstore to read some magazines and sips a coffee or tea, meets friends or family for lunch, and has her own independent side of her life as well. But the important thing here is that we both know how important that time is and we never have run into any issues there.
Pregnancy brought us even closer. Speaking of which, I just found this movie clip of the Disney movie, “Tarzan and Jane” that I never knew existed! :)
While we were going through the whole pregnancy journey together, I had never really thought about if the journey would bring us closer or keep us the same. Well, there’s no doubt it has brought us even closer. The respect I have for Jane and how proud I am of her is through the roof. Pregnancy made us much closer and having a son brought us even closer again.
I’m such a lucky guy to have found someone so beautiful, so loving, so caring, so supportive, and so wonderful to love me as much as Jane does. I love her right back with the same force – that continues to grow each and every single day.
And not to get cheesy on you guys, I wanted to share an email I see Jane had sent me a few hours ago, along with my reply…
On Aug 2, 2009, at 10:33 PM, Jane HisBoysCanSwim.com wrote:
just a quick note to tell you that you are doing an awesome job as a dad. i love
seeing you with little (Monkey) and it makes my heart smile. thanks for being an
awesome husband, a fantastic dad, and letting me fall more and more in love
with you daily.
i love you.
—
And my reply back to Jane was…
Awe babe, thank you. 
I love you so much and I’m so proud
of you. You are so strong, so wonderful, so beautiful, and so
loving. I love seeing you with our son and how you look at
him and give him kisses.
He loves his mommy A LOT! :)
Love you beautiful
—
Jane and I say “I love you” to each other many, many times a day. We never go to bed angry at one another. And we make a great time. Like many couples, we’ve been though a lot, we’ve been though some tough times, stood by each other and have always been there for one another.
What we have is special – and I hope that our son Monkey finds a love like his parents share someday. When two people are this in love, we really feel like anything is possible – and it is. And I’m so excited to be starting this new chapter of our lives together – a life with our little Monkey.
So why am I sharing all of this with you today?
Because life speeds by us too quickly. Sometimes you just have to hit the pause button and remember to tell your husband or wife that you love them a few times a day. Let them know how you feel about them. Let them know that you care. And it doesn’t have to be anything expensive. In fact, some of the best things you can do cost nothing.
For example, last night when Jane and I went to bed I just laid there and looked into her eyes while stroking her face and hair softly for a couple of minutes. Neither of us said a word. We just laid there enjoying being together. In fact, shortly after I got up (Jane was always awake because she had to feed Monkey) Jane told me how much she loved how I just stroked her hair and cheek the night before, how sweet it was, and how much she loved me.
Everyday I tell Jane that she is beautiful.
Everyday I’m excited to see her in the morning.
Everyday I fall more and more love with her.
Everyday I realize how special of a woman Jane is.
And now everyday I’m so proud and happy to have Jane as Monkey’s mommy.
Jane is my everything and I love her so much.
So do something special for your husband or wife today – just because you love them. Buy some flowers, cook a special dinner, get a sappy card and write something nice in it. Or just hug them tighter than you have ever hugged them before. Do something. Anything. Just because you love them.
You might also want to read:
- Our Baby Feeding Schedule: A day in the life of Tarzan, Jane, and Monkey. Welcome to no sleepville.
- No More Fuzzy Pictures For Jane, Tarzan, And Monkey
- Pregnancy emotions gone wild: Jane cried this morning and I just want her to know…
- Pregnancy Week 23 Pregnant Belly Picture And Yes, Tarzan Is Here.
- Yes, the rumors are true… There’s a penis growing inside of me!
= a post from Mommy Jane 
= a post from Daddy Tarzan
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Awwwwwwwwww … <_< Em, but yeah, you and Jane have a great relationship.
That is fantastic and I know just what you are talking about! My husband and I work together and are always around each other, I wouldnt have it any other way! I hope that the baby coming does for us what it has done for your relationship.
You guys have something very special and powerful, never ever lose it, say hi to Jane and your little possum. Keep up the good work!
funny i should read this post today…my hubby and i were just talking last night about how much closer pregnancy has made us (i’m 30 weeks!). we are so crazily in love and had never imagined we could somehow fall MORE in love! i actually just got back from the store where i bought him a really nice steak dinner to surprise him with tonight *waggles eyebrows*. i really felt a connection with what you were saying and i’m glad that other people in this world can share the love and happiness that my sweets and i do! keep blogging! i’ve been obsessed with your blog for awhile now and it has really helped me through my pregnancy
oh, and my little one is wiggling away as i type, so i think he is saying he approves as well HAHA
It’s very obvious from every one of your blog posts how crazy you are about each other, and I love that. My husband and I are best friends. We’re excited to see each other at the end of the day. We would rather be with each other than with anyone else in the world. (We were in England and Scotland for 11 days last year and were together for almost every minute of that 11 days–and we never fought once!) We say I love you multiple times a day. If we’re apart and I pop online, he says, “Hi, Gorgeous!” (Even though I’m FAR from gorgeous!
Mutual respect goes a long, long way, and I’m so happy that we have figured that out. We’ve both learned (through some trial and error, no doubt) that even if it’s something as simple as saying, “Hey hon, would you please carry this out to the car for me?” is a lot more effective than saying, “That box has been sitting here for three days and needs to be put in the car!” I see other people interacting that way and it just makes me cringe. How wonderful that Monkey (and our fetus, Blueberry–32 weeks) will grow up surrounded by LOVE!
your love for each other has always shown in your posts
Awww! Isn’t my husband the sweetest? Who would have thought that pregnancy and having a baby would have brought us even closer?! It’s so amazing and wonderful and I would not change a thing! Having a baby is tough work, especially at the beginning, but with a husband who is so fabulous as mine, it works. And it works without arguments & fighting, which is awesome too. Even though Monkey is still “brand new”, we are adjusting and handling everything as a team, which is just how it should be. Thank God we work well together, huh babe?
Thanks for all the sweet comments & for still reading even though our blog is getting increasingly sappy over the past few weeks.
And for those of you who have a special and fantastic relationship like T & I do, I’m so happy for you. Everyone deserves to have someone special in his/her life.
Now… gotta go feed the feisty boob-loving Monkey that is our son.
@Jane… oh yes, I’m very happy we work great together as a team – it makes things so much easier. And speaking of a feisty boob-loving Monkey, that used to be me.
But those days are all but a distant memory. LOL
Aww you guys are so cute!! My husband and I work together in the same office (we sight right next to each other!) so we are also together alot. We’ve gotten the same comments as you guys. People say things like “I couldnt work with my wife/husband if all day, he/she would drive me crazy!” But we LOVE working together and being together all day. It definitely brings us closer as a couple and makes our relationship stronger.
Since we are sharing love notes… I received this one from my own Tarzan this morning.
‘Did I mention yet today how much love you (tons), how beautiful you are with Julian (very) and how excited I am to have this child with you (excited to tears)? ‘
We are 39 weeks pregnant and so much of how you’ve described your relationship reminds me of ours. I almost feel guilty for being so happy.
I have really enjoyed your blog and can’t help but think you both are paving the way for us. It is great to get a sneak peek at what is right around the corner.
it’s probably my pregnancy hormones kicking in as i read this blog, but it truely brought me to tears. you two have a wonderful love for each other. the video made me cry! (sad i know, that a disney movie brought on such an emotional breakdown lol). you two’s relationship reminds me of a quote from the movie, “the notebook” i’m sure you’ve seen/heard of : “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more, that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. And that’s what you’ve given me. That’s what I’d hoped to give you forever.”