Comments on: First date night post baby, makeup, and what do stay at home moms do?

By: avoiceofmyown

avoiceofmyown — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:51:25 +0000

As a somewhat new mom and having had PPD myself doing the hair and make-up =’s big boost for the self esteem. Trust me.

By: devaskyla

devaskyla — Mon, 31 Aug 2009 04:06:02 +0000

I always get dressed & do my hair, which means I take off my nightshirt throw on a pair of pants & a tshirt, run a brush through my hair & either put it in a ponytail or put on a headband.

Never went on dates before kids, never been on one since them, either. There’s no one I’d trust to take care of my kids anyway. And the baby would be hysterical if I tired.

By: Mandi

Mandi — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 15:49:30 +0000

Stay at home mom… My answer…

I don’t get dressed unless I am going somewhere. If I am going somewhere, I’ll get dressed that morning after Baby’s first feeding of the day. If I’m not planning on going anywhere, I stay in my PJs… either all day, or until Daddy gets home. Depending on my mood, which reflects how the baby has felt for the day. LoL

By: Julie

Julie — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 00:15:32 +0000

I get dressed nearly every day, but nothing special, I’m still wearing maternity pants and larger tops that I had no choice but to buy since some of my pregnancy weight refuses to budge and I’m a size bigger than pre pregnancy still. I don’t see the issue with wearing jammies or lounge clothes now and then… in fact once a week usually I love to have a shower and then put on a clean pair of jammies for the day. If I’m staying home, what’s the big deal?

As for a date, my husband and I went to the Harry Potter movie and I spent the first half of the movie really enjoying it, and the second half of the movie wishing we could just go home and be with our son… I missed him like crazy and just wanted to be home with him instead. It’s the catch 22, you are dying for alone time with your spouse, and when you get it you are thinking about how much you miss the baby.

By: Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com

Sarah @ BecomingSarah.com — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 16:06:29 +0000

For our first date without our baby, we were supposed to go out and all, but we actually just ran errands and then came home and took naps.

It’s just, you know, running errands and sleeping are rare commodities around here…=P

I don’t have PPD, but I’ve heard the same thing, that just taking a little time for yourself makes a world of difference. It makes sense to me. After the first week, I thought I’d go nuts if I didn’t get some time to shower every day. Now I make sure it’s the first thing I do. I wake up before the baby does, I shower, then I feed her and get dressed. While she naps, I have about an hour to do whatever I want. Just getting that routine wherein I shower on my terms made such a huge difference for me that I can understand how it would help with PPD to some extent.

That said, I do think that PPD is a serious thing to deal with. Medication and family support are probably more helpful overall, even if primping helps a little bit.

By: JoAnn

JoAnn — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:12:48 +0000

Shower, getting dress, and any primping you would have done before baby is very important for depression help. If you fail to take care of yourself, it will affect how you feel about yourself. Some of my hardest days were helped by starting over with a shower, clean and comfortable clothes (usually jeans & cotton top), and makeup. It might sound weird but plucking my eyebrows always made me feel better too. I have thick, dark brows that can get quite shaggy; making them look good, made me feel good.

By: mm

mm — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:35:14 +0000

I relate completly to it, and I think is great that you are going out for a date and I’m sure that it is going to make you feel so much better…I was a stay-home-mom for almost two years and in the beginning I didn’t want to wear make up, I didn’t want to wear nice clothes, I even cut my hair short so I wouldn’t have to blow dry it or take care of it, all beause of PPD, after a while my husband decided to take me to the movies and he encouraged me to go and buy new clothes, get my hair done, and I have to say that I felt so much better after that. Somebody mentioned to try to go out to park with your baby and stuff like that, I agree 100%, go out for a little walk or to the park with your baby or to the library and try to dress nicely, also, you can try to look for mom’s group and to meeth with other moms to share experiences, all that was very helpful for me and suddenly I was feeling better than ever.

By: toni

toni — Sun, 23 Aug 2009 19:28:39 +0000

I get up and shower and put on something cute, never lounge clothes. I dont always do my hair and makeup because I just dont always feel like it or have the time, but when I do get a chance it makes my day a lot better! I prefer to have my hair done and makeup on so I dont feel frumpy. I can understand how that would help with PPD. My sister went back to work 8 weeks after her baby was born, shes a hairdresser and gets all dressed up in heels and looks amazing before going to work, she never had a bit of the baby blues like I did!

By: Lori @ I Can Grow People

Lori @ I Can Grow People — Fri, 21 Aug 2009 14:45:29 +0000

I just realized that in my comment I wrote Star Wars. What I meant was Star TREK. It doesn’t really matter. I still got a beer spilled on me.
Lori

By: "little" one

"little" one — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 20:08:59 +0000

Sounds like fun!!! I hope the two of you have a great time!!!