As promised my mom came over yesterday to watch little Monkey so that Tarzan and I could go out to dinner and have couple time. To be honest, I just wanted to crawl into my bed with my pj’s on, but my mom assured me that a date night would be good for us. She said that she would take care of Monkey at night, so we could go out and come home and sleep.
In the same bed. After a month. Finally!
Tarzan and I ended up at a great little bistro where we had delicious food. Tenderloin with bearnaise sauce, salad, au gratin potatoes, and creme brulee for dessert. It was fab!
We had some wine and enjoyed each other’s company. While we talked about Monkey just a little bit, we also talked about everything else that’s been going on lately. It was nice to feel like a human again and not just be focused on baby stuff throughout the night. We didn’t even call to check in, which is the most lovely part about the whole night.
I know that Monkey is in good hands with my mom. Shoot, he’s probably in better hands with her. It’s nice to not have to worry about Monkey when he’s with my mom. I feel so lucky that she helps us out when we need to get away or when we just need a tiny break.
After dinner we decided to walk into the infamous bar where the jello shots happened last Halloween. Man, it’s different going out now. I felt old, but not really in a bad way. Just different.
I was looking around at all of the single people and thinking that life was so easy back then. Go to work, come home, and your biggest decision was where to go out and what to wear. Ahh, life and motherhood are both so different now.
And not that I wanted to change places with those people at all, but I couldn’t help but miss the simplicity of life years ago before coming into motherhood.
Then the jello shot girl came by and asked if we wanted to partake in one. We both couldn’t help but laugh & told her what those jello shots did last Halloween. I said, “And now we have a 1-month old baby at home”. She laughed, but probably didn’t believe us. Just seeing those jello shots really brought back memories. I can’t believe that that was the beginning of our little Monkey.
Classy, I know.
Being out brought back so many memories of how life used to be, but it didn’t make me envious of that old life. Sure it was fun & everything was so much “lighter” then, but I’m just in a different place now. I can’t even imagine drinking so much as I used to. The appeal isn’t there.
It was nice to get out, but we decided we were ready to come home after 2.5 hours. Our nice comfy bed was calling our names and we had a little baby boy to kiss good night.
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Your classy comment made me giggle, my daughter might've been conceived on the bathroom floor where post act I realized I hadn't cleaned the underside of the toilet in an amazingly long time. Definitely not the story i'll pass onto her to share with her grandchildren but funny none the less.
With my first son our first post baby date was to a salad bar and I felt just like you did, wow how everything had changed, no more popping out for a quick dinner somewhere quiet, and then seeing the couples with the children running around. It felt like i'd gained the world and lost my life at the same time.
Now my oldest is 9 and i'm having a brand new baby and feel again like i'm gaining the world and losing my freedom no more being able to run the kids to the park for a few hours of energy releasing bliss, no more being able to say get some cereal for breakfast when they say they're hungry in the mornings, i'm going back to having a little person fully dependant on me, i'm sure in 9 years i'll look back and smile but right now i'm torn between joy and feeling completely overwhelmed.
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