As I put on my maternity jeans today, I realized that while I hate the fact that I’m still wearing maternity jeans, I’m not exactly doing much about it. As in I’m seriously lacking the motivation for some reason.
I can rattle off a bajillion reasons why I need to lose this damn baby weight, but I would rather eat a Chick-Fil-A sandwich and waffle fries instead. Oh, okay I’ll be honest: I washed the above down with a Dr. Pepper.
My size 10 maternity jeans are feeling a bit snug… in the hips & thigh area, which is no good at all. It’s actually quite depressing that it’s been 3 months since I had Monkey & I’m still wearing maternity pants. Sigh.
I decided today that I’m going to do more than just walk in the morning with my neighbor. This is serious business & I need to get off my lazy ass & do something about this current situation.
No lie but when we were at the pumpkin patch my brother was like “Oh wow, she’s a MILF!” Now while I don’t aspire to necessarily be a MILF, it would be nice to be recognized as one… instead of the frumpy new mom that I see myself as.
I’ve got showering & not having greasy hair down. I’ve mastered not having a single dirty dish in the sink ever. And all of our clothes in the house are clean all of the time (& put away, which is a big accomplishment for me I must say.) My house is clean, including the kitchen appliances & granite.
But I feel frumpy.
Today I ran out to Target & I just thew my hair in a ponytail (what it is always in). I will even go as far to admit to cyber-world that I didn’t even brush my hair. Nope, just throw it up in a pony. I threw on maternity jeans, flip flops, & a shirt and was out the door.
I will say that I did put on my engagement ring (wedding band still doesn’t fit) for the first time since having Monkey (yay!) & I put on my diamond stud earrings, diamond stud necklace, watch, & pearl & diamond ring on my other hand. This is all jewelry that I used to wear 24/7, even in the shower & sleeping. For some reason when I was pregnant, I kept it all in my drawer & wanted the “plain” look, I suppose.
Now it’s time to work on myself. I should take a little extra time & apply some makeup. Shoot, I should really take the time to brush my hair too. Just sayin’.
Operation Get-My-Ass-Into-Shape has officially began.
Once my Chick-Fil-A settles, I’m going to sweat my ass off. (I’m really hoping that Monkey cooperates & stays asleep.) I think part of the problem is that I’m in lounge wear when Monkey & I don’t leave the house. Lounge wear is stretchy & I never feel uncomfortable.
Today in my maternity jeans & fitted shirt, I felt uncomfortable. This is important people.
So, in conclusion, if I have to make myself feel uncomfortable day & night in order to find my motivation I will do so. I need to get back to the cute, in shape, not eating fast food (even Chick-Fil-A), makeup-wearing, jewelry-loving girl that I used to be. I used to walk around with such confidence & now I walk around pulling my shirt down in the back so that no one will spy that I’m wearing maternity jeans.
Yesterday I went into the convenience store to pick up some beer for Tarzan. Of course I got carded (which I don’t mind one bit), but this time it was different. The dumb girl behind the counter said, “You look different. Was this picture from a long time ago?”
Oh I wanted to lie & say that it was, but truth be told, it’s not. It’s a picture from March 2008. I was skinny, tan, makeup on, & hair done. To her I was a chubby, pale, no makeup hiding behind my sunglasses & hair in a pony tail kind of girl.
In the end, this is what made me realize that I’ve turned into someone that I’m not & I need to get back to the girl that I used to be. I don’t want to be that mom that people say “has let herself go” since having kids. Another truth: That is one of my biggest fears about this whole thing. To master being a mom, but not take proper care of myself. I’m nipping it in the bud & going to exercise now.
If you want to join in, reply in the comments. Or if you just want to tell me that you know what I’m talking about, reply. If you are telling me that you don’t relate to what I’m saying & that you hold the current status of being a MILF, I don’t want to hear from you. Just kidding… but please be nice. ;)
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I can’t get past that girl at the Target counter. What a stupid thing to say. Seriously.
“OMG, you look SOOOOO different.”
You should have been like “OMG REALLY? I THOUGHT I REMAINED LOOKING THE EXACT SAME ALL THE TIME AS I DO IN THAT PHOTO.”
My pregnancy hormones may be getting the better of me.
But seriously, good for you for getting motivated. You want to feel good, and that’s what’s most important.. Staying healthy. I wish I could brag that I’m one of those mamas who has been fit and yoga-loving through her pregnancy but I can count on two hands the number of times I have been on a 30 minute walk in my near-7 months of pregnant-ness.
So good luck! You can do it!
Hey, I’m right there with you! I am preggo with my 3rd baby due in Jan. My oldest is 3 and I have not done much to keep myself in shape. I AM going to run a 1/2 marathon in late august! I am making this commitment so I will be motivated and start training asap! Good luck!!
good luck jane! i’m set to have my baby any day and can’t wait to drop this load lol, but i know the process to get back in shape is going to be a long one
it’s so easy to say now “i can’t wait to get back in the gym!” but i’m sure fast forward a couple months and i too, will still be in maternity jeans. you’ll do great girl, it sounds like you have the motivation you need! you have to keep us posted with the progress!
Jane what exactly is ur plan….. I am in the same boat but I can not afford gym membership my house is way to small to exercise in but a really need to make a change. aunt flow arrived yesterday so i am feeling extra fat
Hi, Jane. I just wanted you to know I totally feel your pain. I am still coping with not feeling like myself for the past 10 months! I had my baby boy last month – almost 6 weeks ago. I gained 80 pounds this pregnancy and am still 30 pounds more than my pre-pregnancy weight. I was an avid work-out person. I would go to spin class or go for a 6 mile run. Since I had my c-section I have been attempting to work out, but I can’t get back into the hard-core work outs I did before because I am sore and frankly just plain tired! We have a person to take care of 24 hours a day. I, too, have been sporting my maternity pants…still. I wore a size 5 pre-pregnancy and am now lucky to get a size 10 up and zipped. I am going to start going back to the gym at least 4 days a week. It gets hard to leave the house sometimes, though, so I am even contemplating buying a treadmill…that way I can run at home while baby is sleeping. Fast food is quick and easy and WAY hard to give up. But I just replenished the house with fruit and veggies. At any rate, if you would like to be work out/diet post-preggo buddies to help us reach our goals, just let me know, and I can give you my email address….Good luck!
I’m with you! I’m 3 months P.P. too and I refuse to wear my maternity pants…but ended up having to go buy jeans in a MUCH larger size than before…that’s depressing. I’m not sure my shirts will EVER fit again…seriously. My larger volume has made them seriously short! Chick-a-fila really isn’t all that bad actually
As fast food goes…good choice! I decided to make a 2 week meal plan and buy everything I need at one time…that way there’s no temptation to go out to eat or eat random crap around the house. I also stocked a bunch of fruit in front of the junk food cabinet and veggies in the front of the fridge. I’m usually guilted into grabbing one of them rather than whatever I went over there for.
I just had my first child 6 weeks ago, and am freaking out about not being back to my pre-pregnancy shape (which was nothing to write home about to begin with). I “only” gained 35 lbs and had a 10 lb baby. I haven’t set foot on a scale, but my suspicion is that there’s less than a 15 lb difference between my weight now and my pre-pregnancy weight. Sigh.
Good luck . . .there’s a lot of us out here in the blogosphere that are in exactly the same position.
Oh, and I just had Chick-Fil-A on Friday night . . .soooo good!
It scares me that I will get unmotivated post pregnancy because you are forced to cut back and stop and once out of a workout routine it is so hard to get back to it. I am sure after a couple weeks in a routine it will be easier to motivate. At least that is what I tell myself:)
I feel ya!!!! My son is almost 4 months old, and I still have lots of pounds to lose. I started Jenny Craig last week after many unsuccessful attempts to diet on my own. I lost 4.4 pounds so far! I definitely need to exercise though. It’s hard to find the motivation! I started the 30 Day Shred last week and really liked it because it’s hard and only 20 minutes. But then we moved and got off track, so I’m starting over tomorrow. I would do it tonight, but I’m way too tired! =/
You go Girl!!!! I just canceled my gym membership b/c of the pregnancy…. I hope I can get back in the swing post baby….. good luck!!!!
Okay I have given up on the fact that I will never be a size zero again, but 4 months have passed and I feel pretty good. I am a size 4. The biggest motivator was buying a pair of Fossil jeans that were snug-I mean tight… I fit in them now-hubby calls them my senorita sexy pants. Also a good way to loose the gut is to suck it in -seriously try to push your belly button to your back-it has worked wonders.
I’m VERY lucky in that i am below my pre-pregnancy weight, but there is a need for some MAJOR toning! Plus I’m a professional dancer so i’m looking to get back into dancing shape ASAP! I had a c-section, so i’ve only been walking, but can’t wait to get back to the gym and dancing. I’m walking about a mile everyday, which i know is better than nothing at all. I think it would be great if we all could continue to motivate each other!! Keep us posted on what your plan is Jane!
Go Jane! That is awesome that you’re motivated to work on you now that you’ve got all that other good stuff down. I’ve never been through it, so I don’t know exactly what you’re feeling, but I did make a big change in my lifestyle about a year ago and slimmed down and picked up some new exercise habits. Once they become habits, you’ll never look back.
My son is 12 weeks old and I’m 7 lbs. above my pre-pregnancy weight. I only recently started feeling un-frumpy, though. The only thing that motivated me to start getting back into shape and looking nice was going back to work, which I did 2 1/2 weeks ago. Once I realized I’d have to start wearing pants without elastic waists, I suddenly got motivated to go back to the gym. I have a long way to go, but my pre-pregnancy pants are finally starting to button!
If it makes you feel any better, even though my mom passed down good genes and I was back to pre-pregnancy size in a month, it’s been three months and I still can’t get on top of the dishes or laundry or general bathroom cleaning that needs to be done. So if it’s not one thing, it’s another.
Oh, and I don’t know what happened to my jewelry-loving self either. I packed up all my jewelry during my pregnancy and just haven’t felt like putting it on since. I feel like putting on my wedding band is getting dolled up lol.
I’m with Sarah. Even though I was back in my pre-pregnancy jeans at three days PP, my kitchen is a mess, the laundry room is full of unfolded laundry, and so on! So, I’m a little jealous.:)
Yes! I know EXACTLY how you feel! I gained OVER 65lbs during pregnancy. I say “over” because that was the last weight I got about 2 weeks before giving birth, I probably gained another 10 who knows.
I need to lose 48lbs to get to my pre-pregnancy weight. I rejoined weight watchers & struggling a bit…I’ve always done so well on it in the past. So on Thursday I rejoined the gym & have been going every day. I also got “Nike Plus” to work with my iPod nano…I love electronics so maybe being able to use something to get me to move my ass will help. I bought ONE pair of regular jeans & wear them every single day because I feel funny wearing my *full panel* maternity jeans. If I had the maternity jeans that had just the thin elastic on the waist or the roll panel I wouldn’t care but the full panel…no.
We will get there girl! You are my “due date twin” (even tho my baby was born July 31st) so we WILL get thin again!
i, like becoming sarah, am nowhere near being on top of the house cleaning and it’s almost 3 months since the little guy was born. nor do i have the whole “shower daily” routine down. i’m ok with that for some reason (not sure if my husband is down with it), but i figure i will get there. as for exercising, i still have 15 of the 50 pounds i gained to go. breast feeding is taking off the poundage, but also adding to the problem on my upper half
i will love to support you and have your support. it helps to have a cheering section!
i took someone’s suggestion on one of your posts and got jillian michael’s 30 day shred. i will start that tomorrow – and let you know if it’s any good! i was pretty hard-core in shape before i got pregnant, so i’m usually skeptical about the effectiveness of DVD workouts (for ME, personally – everyone responds differently to different exercise) but i like the idea of 20 minutes of an intense workout – perfect to do with a napping baby.
this leads me to a new problem though….the whole showering thing…i guess i can’t torture my husband THAT much.
I hear you on the need to find some motivation. My son is 12 weeks old, and I’ve been able to loose a little with eating healthier, but I still have 10lbs and lots of toning to do. I’ve been having a really hard time getting to the gym (translate to: having my husband watch our son when he gets home from work). It would be great to find an exercise video or plan that incorporates babies! Let us know what work out you are planning to do, and maybe some of us can join in.
Best of luck!
I’m 39 weeks pregnant; our pumpkin is due October 29th
I can see myself in your shoes 3 months or so from now. My big butt has grown since being pregnant; something I wish I would have known before buying all my maternity pants! Anyhow, I’m going back to work after the maternity leave ends (boo!). I will have to get in shape (boot camp?) or I’ll be wearing my very summer maternity clothes with sweaters. I’m SO tired of these clothes now. I live in Georgia and the weather is warmer so I’ve been lucky to not have to buy another season’s worth of clothes. I wish you luck. I love your blog : ) You’re a great motivation!
Good luck, hun! I hope you make it work. It’s totally ok to let yourself go a little though, if you want to wear lounge clothes and no make up when you’re at home, do it! Maybe just going out, even a quick trip to the store, add a little make up, brush your hair (I’m guilty of not brushing too, I chopped my hair short just to avoid it! lol), and throw on a necklace or a little something. It does a lot for your confidence, even if you don’t feel like “you”. I’m 7 months out, and still don’t feel like me. I’ve lost ALL the baby weight, and I’m still not down to the size I was before. You may get small again, but don’t expect your old wardrobe to fit like they used to. It may never happen because you body has totally revamped itself. I went from a size 3 in juniors clothes to a 10 in womens, and like I said, I lost all the baby weight, so what happened?! lol
I’m 8 weeks post-partum and I was rocking the maternity jeans (yes, still–I gained 50 pounds with my daughter and don’t own a scale, but I’d guess I still have 20 lbs to go) until I read your post. Then, you want to know what I did? I went out and BOUGHT NEW PANTS. That’s right. And I got rid of all the maternity clothes. I cannot tell you how lovely it was to wear pants that fit without an elastic waist. So my advice to you: MILF yourself right this second, not by a treadmill, but by a trip to Target. Buy some ‘tween clothes that make you feel less frumpy and close your closet doors for now to all of your pre-preg clothes that are laughing at you. It made me feel better, and I hope it makes you feel better, too.
The muscle I had from walking while I was pregnant to make the labor easier has now turned to fat while I lay around feeding my Biscuit. I am also, as of this week, exercising and walking to get that muscle back and melt the baby fat away.
I found myself wearing dress pants around the house to remind myself that I need to keep working on it! I feel your pain! My favorite dress pants, that I wore comfortably at 5 months pregnant, are now very tight in the thighs and butt.
Good luck to me and you and all the others working on this.
I just had my first baby on August 12th, 2009 and I’ve always been a small person 125lbs for me was the largest I ever was, so when I went up to 173lbs you could say it made me unhappy. But now my little one is 11 weeks old and I’m down to 130lbs but I’ve still got a flabby tummy and I really dont know how to get rid of it
I’m not trying to piss anyone off but since I’ve had my little girl I’ve exercised maybe three times so I guess that explains my belly size but I really wanna get rid of it I’m just not motivated enough. Any suggestions?