12 Weeks Pregnant: When Do We Tell Everyone? Boobs?

I used Twitter to tell people.

http://twitter.com/
ginnycase/status/796249957

Edit by Tarzan: For some reason having the link all together was making it stick out of the side of the page... strange. Will be contacting designer about this issue. For those who want to see Ginny-Marie's link, type in twitter.com into your browser, then paste this after the .com.... ginnycase/status/796249957

this post cracked me up! This is point where boobs go from "Fun" to "Functional"!

and as for sleep? Yes. Sleep now while you can. Enjoy laying around doing absolutely nothing because once you are a parent, it will rarely happen again!
(But it's 100% worth it once you have that adorable little baby)

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@ Chrissy - Thanks so much for your comment! You share a lot of great info and will have Jane read your comment if she hasn't already. That's great you'll be sharing our blog with your hubby. Any guys you ladies can share this blog with will be motivating to post more of the 'deep dark secrets' that guys only talk about at bars or during football games. :) But seriously, I really appreciate the advise about telling Jane how sexy she is all along the way - which could bring me some nice surprises!

I'm like most guys here, I'll admit. I *think* about how sexy Jane is now and I really think I'm going to think she's even sexier as her pregnancy advances. I just need to remember to say it more. I'm one to hide his feelings a little - I guess most guys are that way, right? I mean I had to get myself drunk to get the courage to tell Jane that I love her for the first time! 20 minutes later I passed out for the night. She was there the next morning when I woke up. Now that's love. :)

@ Pixie - about your first comment... you're confusing me even more. Finally I thought I had this whole first trimester second trimester thing all figured out and now you've got me all confused again!

Second comment.... WHOA!

You share true golden nuggets of parenting advise - advise that I will no doubt be keeping in mind as I begin fatherhood the day our baby is born. One thing you said, "I had to know he and I where on the same page though, but we really worked it out well and are a very strong team now. he is strong when I can not be, and I am strong when he can not be".... that is powerful!

I never really thought about everything this way. Working as a team and building confidence in not only each other but also in your own abilities is what will make everything run a lot smoother. Seems funny for me to be talking all serious sounding here (since 90% of my blogs have some comedy thrown in!) but when everything is all said and done, bring a kid into this world is some serious stuff!

Also I greatly appreciate your advise on being our own people and not taking what others say too much to heart. During the drive with my friend today, he said several things that made a little tingle in my stomach appear which told me to toss that tid-bit of advise out the window.

For me, I think I'll feel better once Jane and I go through some pregnancy classes and I learn how to properly hold a baby. And of course, friends told us that those classes are a waste of time! But for me, I think they'll be helpful. Besides, it'll give me more time with Pregnant Jane doing Pregnant things. It's doing those little things that create lifetime memories, you know? And on top of that... stories to post on this blog. :)

Thanks again - I really appreciate you ladies for taking the time to comment on my post.

Oh and on the other topics and I hate when people say "your life will be over" "get all the sleep you can now" as though you can hold stock on sleep and it will somehow help you later. Your experience will be unique to you and yours, each couple is so different and each women is different in how much she chooses to do herself and have help with.

My husband seemed to enjoy diaper changing, it was something he could help with that he mastered and knew how to handle early on. Breast-feeding involves a little person sucking on your boobs all day long, it would take a very nice and tolerant women to allow any other sort of touching after dealing with that all day. Breast-feeding can be very painful in the beggning, depends on the kid and mom.

I used to have my husband handle a middle of the night feeding and give a small bottle of formula. It didn't seem to mess up my feeding her, but gave me a bit more sleep as he has and always had gotten more then I do. Now well over a year later I wake up at 7:30 am every morning, I have not slept in past 9am sense before I had the baby. I miss that, but I don't mind it nearly as much as my husband would so that's one of the things I do myself and rarely bother him about, he takes monitor duty at night so I can fall asleep without hearing her fuss or move around, keeping me from falling asleep.

You will both find a rhythm and what works for you, my suggestion is to ignore all advice and trust your instincts. Encourage your wife to trust HER instincts as well, and I hope you get to do a bit with the baby, I think it's important that men give baths, change diapers and feed... so they have confidence in their ability to take care of the child even if it's not the norm or majority. I can leave my husband with our girl and know she is well taken care of, he might not know all the stuff I do (simply because of the amount of time I spend with her), but he is confident and can take care of things. I know some moms who don't feel comfortable leaving the house for 2 hours and leaving their husband along with a 6 month old, and that always makes me sad.

Also I am a total wimp and can't have her cry to fall asleep, and we discussed in length how long is okay for her to cry (we use the Ferber method once she turned 6 months old, and we don't CIO (Cry it out)). So I know if I go into the other room and put my head phones on and watch a movie, he will get her to sleep, and in fact does it better then I do. If I go into her room she knows she can play me and I'll wind up letting her stay up or sleeping with her on the floor in her room, so my husband and I balance each other out well, but I did have to allow him to do that and I had to let go which I think is hard for women sometimes! I had to know he and I where on the same page though, but we really worked it out well and are a very strong team now. he is strong when I can not be, and I am strong when he can not be.

Actually babycenter.com says the 2nd tri starts the first day of the 14th week, which is when I like to wait to tell people!

You've cracked me up. You asked sooo many questions, nobody can possibly answer them in one comment box! You 2 are going to be fine. Why wait? I always figure it is best that those that love me most know when I'm expecting right off the bat - they are the ones to offer me support if anything should go wrong afterall. I never wanted it to be like a dirty secret in fear of anything. Jane will be more tired, but chances are with your level of excitement currently you'll be up and staring and watching her nurse in amazement. lol. It isn't that bad. The fatigue and frequent waking is passing if you are lucky enough to get one of those babies - we had 3 - so it definitely depends on the baby. Don't let the horror stories scare you, just as the delivery stories will scare Jane. Not all are bad! Not every woman turns into a nympho when she becomes pregnant either - some just don't feel sexy. Make her feel sexy and you might be surprised! lol. I'll be sharing your posts with my hubbie - he'll get a kick out of them. He isn't a computer guy though so I don't know how much encouragement he'd offer - THAT and he likes to be a funny man and joke about stuff. Congratulations!

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