You know what I hate? When people act funny around you for a certain something. It just makes everything awkward and it’s unnecessary.
One of my friends is acting this way right now with my D&C and it’s really getting to me. She knew that I was pregnant and she knew that I was having surgery on Monday. When I told her that I had a miscarriage and needed a D&C, she got weird and got off the phone real fast. She sent me a text later saying that she was sorry that she didn’t know what to say. I told her it was fine – it’s a sucky situation.
So today is Friday and I would have definitely thought she would have called or texted me to see how surgery went, but nada. She could have texted my husband to see that everything was fine, but no. Nothing. There has been no contact whatsoever since last week. Not even an “I hope you are doing okay and that surgery goes well for you”. Or “I’m thinking about you”. Or “I’m sorry that you have to deal with this.”
There’s been nothing, damnit.
I get that she probably doesn’t know what to say, but I’m getting more and more annoyed as the days pass. I feel like I can’t be that much of an important person to her if she doesn’t even check in to see that I made it out of surgery. I don’t know; I’m hurt.
The thing is, I cannot picture myself acting this way to one of my close friends ever. Maybe I wouldn’t have the most perfect words to say, but I would “be there” any way that I could. I just don’t understand it…
And frankly, I can’t see me getting past this to make our friendship normal again. I can’t just brush this under the rug because it’s a huge thing that happened and it was really emotional. It was a part of me and she wasn’t there. Eh, I don’t know.
What do y’all think?
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