I posted a while ago about how I had a little meltdown with Tarzan about being pregnant and my friends being in a whole different place than where I am. Maybe all of this just comes with being pregnant – You start to really think about your life as you know it and how it will drastically change once your baby is born.
Well, who am I kidding, my life has already changed and I’m only about to begin the second trimester. Already I’ve changed my eating habits, my sleeping patterns have changed, I feel more sick with less energy than ever, and the list could go on and on. I’m already a slightly different person with more change to come.
I find myself not sharing every little thing about my body and uterus with my friends right now. Sure they care about me and the baby growing inside, but I feel like they can’t relate and I don’t want to be that person that only talks about car seats and strollers.
I try to picture my group of friends with me not being pregnant and one of them pregnant. I know that we would want to hear updates, but I also know that I wouldn’t understand it all. And I wouldn’t be able to relate really.
“Oh, I’m sorry you have morning sickness. I’m here for you, but I have no idea what it feels like.”
“Your uterus is the size of a grapefruit… Cool. Want to go shopping?”
“You’re almost out of the first trimester? Wow. Uh, what does that really mean?”
I’m actually doing them a favor by not telling them every little thing that is going on. I share the big, important things that are happening like hearing the heartbeat and having the first ultrasound.
I do have good friends though. They call and ask how I’m doing, how I’m feeling, and what’s been going on. It’s nice to also have normal conversations with them about other things that are going on besides talking about my uterus. I like it.
All that being said, I got 3 cards in the mail yesterday from various friends. You know how nice it is to check the mail and get fun cards, magazine, and anything else that doesn’t fall into the bill category. I couldn’t open the cards fast enough. All 3 cards were baby cards and they melted my heart. Even though my friends can’t relate to what I’m going through right now, they try and that is all I could ask for!
Here’s a little bit of a card from my best friend for just me. I’ve told her my worries about everything changing and made her promise that she would still want to hang out with me and the baby. Silly, I know, but it’s scary when your life is going to change so much. Here’s what she said:
” I couldn’t be happier for you. Having a little “mini you” with the man of your dreams! You really will make such a great mom, and even though it’s going to be a new chapter in your life, it’s going to be a great one. I love you and will always be your friend, even IF you decide to be one of those moms that takes about strollers and baby poop all the time. Just remember, we will ALL be there with you soon and you will just happen to be the lucky one to be able to offer up all the great advice!”
Another one for both me and Tarzan:
“Congratulations! I’m so happy for both of you. This is going to be such an exciting time! You guys are going to make wonderful parents. The baby is going to be one lucky little boy or girl!”
And the 3rd card has a picture of a little girl dressed up with wings on and my friend wrote:
“I thought this cute was so cute! If you have a little girl, we are going to dress her up so cute just like the little girl on the card! I’m so excited for your baby! It’s going to be a great year!”
See, my friends do care and I think they are just wonderful!
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