13 weeks pregnant: Alcohol and friends

I cannot believe how similar your story is to mine! AND we even conceived on the same day (how eerie is that??) My husband and I are currently going through this and it was so nice to come across this blog. I found it while searching for "pregnancy brain" to prove to my husband that I'm not going crazy. Then I couldn't stop reading this blog. In terms of the drinking, I love my wine and it sure was hard this past Christmas and NYE not drinking a thing while family and friends have a grand ol' time all around you!

@Peta: Not drinking at a family or friend social situation is such a dead giveaway! Just think of how awesome next Christmas will be with a baby and a drink (maybe)! It's so hard for me to imagine having Christmas in summer. Wow.

I think a few sips or even a glass would be ok. I've heard that you can breastfeed and still have a drink. Of course I'll read more into that to know exactly what I can do, but I like thinking about having a little champagne!

Hi Jane, we found out i was pregnant 2 weeks before Christmas,

So Not even family new at this stage, it was the hardest thing as all the family know i like a drink when the family gets together, They worked it out in 2 seconds that i was pregnant,its summer here in Australia so it a seafood christmas, even that was out of the question i wouldn't eat what everyone else was eating and i couldn't drink was a pretty sucky christmas that way, but more then worth it bring on Auguest i say,

Also my sister gave birth last september to her second child she was able to go home the next day, she had me arrange the Champagne for her arrival home i thought it was pretty funny but we enjoy a glass a bubbly and the bubba was just fine

Thanks for all the comments and I can't tell you all how great it feels to know that I'm not alone in feeling like this! I can relate to all that you said and it's so nice to have support, so thanks!!

Yesterday my friend and I went to dinner and I really wanted a virgin bloody mary (really just spicy tomato juice with olives). Sure our waiter looked at me weird, but whatever. It was delicious! Today one of my other friends joined us and we went to Kemah and Galveston. At lunch I wanted another spicy tomato juice and I had two of them. So good. I think there's a lot of sodium in that though - I couldn't drink enough water after.

@Young Momma - Being pregnant so far has made me realize what great friends I have. They stick by me and still want to hang out, which is awesome. When we are out they make sure to ask if I mind that they have a drink and so on. I feel super lucky to have them in my life! I worry about money too. For lunch today, my entree was disgusting. In no word of a lie, it resembled orange vomit. (I ordered crawfish etoufee). I did try to be a sport and eat it, but I could really only get down 2 bites. Yuck. I didn't want to be one of "those" people who complains so that it is taken off the bill, but on the other hand, I didn't want to pay $12 for something that I hardly touched. I kept my fingers crossed and sure enough the waitress took it off. On a whole different note, I do hope that you are right and that everything gets easier! Thanks for your comment!

@Sarah - I wondered if my ob would let me have a glass of wine at any point in my pregnancy, but she said no. :( Of course I won't deter from what she suggests, but I do envy you and your glass of wine!

@Ashley - I like your thinking about the Bud Light! I'm glad that you can relate to not having drinks. It's such a different position to be in and I know that it's all worth it, but it's still hard. Congrats on your 3rd baby!

@wildlifebio - You are totally right. I came to the conclusion today that I just want alcohol because I know I can't have it. It's like when you're on a diet and you want chocolate cake, even though you don't like chocolate cake regularly. It's only because it's off limits to you. Like you, I'm going to be in a wedding on March 28. Totally freaking out about the dress - it's a regular one, not maternity, but I'll talk about that more in detail. Cheers to being pregnant bridesmaids!

@MVP - I like your idea of going on vacation: drinking, great restaurants, bars, etc. I'm totally with you on the fatigue thing. It's only 730pm, but I'm beat and could go to sleep right now.

@Destiny - Way to rub it in! Just kidding. :) I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and I was partaking in fruit punch. Fruit punch. Ha, ha. I know exactly what you mean about things not being as funny! I have new hope about champagne after hearing your story, thanks for sharing and too funny about the nurse!

I am craving a frozen top shelf margarita like none other! But I am 2 days PAST my due date, so I will be partaking a lot sooner than you will :)
When I was 16 weeks pregnant, one of my best friends got married in this HUGE $100,000 wedding in Dallas with an open bar and all these awesome drinks and I just had to sit there and sip my diet coke. It was torture! Not that I love to drink, but it kind of sucks to be left out when everyone is getting giggly-tipsy and you are well aware things really aren't THAT funny :) At least you aren't alone. pregnant women everywhere relate!

Oh and I had champagne like 15 minutes after delivering my daughter. My nurse brought in a bed pan filled with ice and we iced the champagne that way. It was hilarious :)

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I totally get you. Right after we learned we were expecting, we went on a pre-planned trip to Portland for 4 days, including my bday. Lemme tell you, it was totally different from trips past, when we would hit some amazing restaurant, throw back bottles of red wine, followed up by bar-hopping, later collapsing in the hotel room. Nooo, not this time. It was a much more sedate affair, not only cuz I couldn't drink, but also cuz I was battling that 1st trimester fatigue and was tired all the time.

When going out with friends, though, you can try drinking sparkling water or club soda mixed with grenadine or order some extra special appetizer or dessert you normally wouldn't get because of the bar tab. Just a thought.

I'm not sure about the champagne after birth thing. If you're breastfeeding, alcohol's a no-no, or a real pain in the butt if you want to pump, then toss it till all the booze is out of your system. Yeah, your bod's out for rent for a good long while!

I feel your pain!! I am only 5.5 weeks and I am no alcoholic either but I do enjoy a couple of glasses of wine with friends every couple of weeks. Just knowing that I am not going to have that for a long time is kind of a downer. And I am the matron of honor in my best friend's wedding in a couple of months. My best friend and I are college buddies and spent a lot of time drinking together :) I am still throwing her an awesome bachlorette party - I just won't be partaking in all the festivities.

I know what you mean, I went to our annual Christmas party and it was sooo different, kind of funny to be the only sober one in a room full of partiers though. And don't worry, this stage of your life passes fast (I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my 3rd, my youngest just turned 5). I'm planning on having a nice, cold bud light waiting for me in the hospital after the baby's born ;-)

Awww...I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. I love a good margarita, so I can kinda relate. I'm pregnant right now, and I still enjoy a small glass of red wine from time to time. I trained as a midwife, but I know the medical community still kinda frowns on this. Anyway, I hope you'll have a great time with your friend, alcohol or not.

I was the same way when I was pregnant. I was 19 when I had my first - planned - but all of my friends realized we couldn't do the same stuff anymore. It wasn't drinking, since I didn't drink a whole lot at that point anyway. It was just that our pay checks were going toward baby gear instead of weekly dinners and nights out with our other couple friends. My hubs wasn't going to car races and I wasn't getting my nails done. I know it's hard - but be glad your friends are willing and wanting to stick by you! I realized - big time - who my real friends were/weren't when I had my first. I hope that it gets easier and that your friends stand by you and help it get easier! :)

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