huge hugs
ALicia

My husband and I bought a property (with 2 houses) with my mother when I was 2mths pregnant and it was a disaster.
I had suffered from depression and chronic fatigue syndrome for years, but the stress of the situation nearly ended our marriage.
We even moved into a rental property and tried renting our little house out.
In the end, after $2000 worth of marriage counselling & plenty of debt from the rental fiasco, we finally sold the property.
Now, two and a half years later, we’ve just bought our first home (we look at it that way, anyway), and have a much better relationship with my mother.

I feel so very lucky that all of the relationships involved survived and actually came out stronger and better in the end, but I would never advise anyone to borrow money from friends or family.
Even if we had to live in a one bedroom flat, we would have done this by ourselves, so I totally understand your decision.

Here’s hoping Jane’s morning sickness gets better soon, at the very least.

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@ Crysi … You and Jane are in the same boat. Do you get headaches? Jane still has hers going on 2 days straight now.

@Dawn … Well thank you. Yeah, it’s too easy to take the ‘easy way out’. You never get far in life taking all the shortcuts. Sometimes you have to travel those long, dark, bumpy roads, even knowing the journey is going to be tough. And I’m doing all I can to think in abundance. So funny how I know all that stuff and how I’ve gotten so off track over the last several months. Good thing I know my way back there… and of course, it’s one of the long, bumpy, and dark roads! Also, thanks for the recipe!

@ NeedsAStickyBaby … Wow. Jane’s and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your husband. Sounds like we’re going through a lot of the same things right now. Take some DEEP breaths as many times as you can think of throughout the day. I’ve done all I could to shield Jane from everything – especially during the first trimester. And I think that may be part of why I reached a 9.9 out of 10 on the stress scale. I kept it all bottled up to make sure she stayed happy and never felt stress. That was VERY hard for me. Do everything you can to keep your stress levels down. VERY important, but you know that.

Maybe you, your husband, Jane, and I should start our own little colony in the woods somewhere and not have to worry about money, taxes, stress, etc. It could be a little village where pregnant couples live while awaiting the arrival of their little one. We’d kinda be like the Smurfs I guess. Maybe that’s how they got started?

My husband lost his job this month and despite close to 50 applications has not found one yet. Mechanics are horribly underpaid here and so hes looking into another field. I am so stressed and feel like I should be working or helping some how, when I am a full-time student with 18 credit hours. It’s so hard not to stress about everything right now. My chances of losing the baby are still rather high and stress isn’t helping me or my peanut.

So anyway, lets hope some luck hits both of us, and soon.

And try some ginger ale for Jane…Here’s a recipe. http://blogs.babiesonline.com/pregnancy/homemade-ginger-ale/ That should be 1/2 cup sugar–formatting messed it up.

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The fun part is when Parent Gross Indicators collide with Nonparent Gross Indicators. My wife and I can sit down for a meal and talk about how, when NHL was a child, he had projectile poops that stained our apartment’s carpet. Any non-parent within earshot will turn green and lose their appetite. (Useful if you want the last of the fries. ) Our parent brains, however, have gotten used to a different definition of “gross.”

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Thanks so much! That’s a good point you bring up… sharing a lot of these personal details and things I’m going through here may help some other soon-to-be fathers sometime. Thanks for that – makes me feel a little better opening up so much (NOT an easy thing for a guy to do as all women know!) lol

And yes, I just gave Jane crackers and she has a big cup of water she’s sipping on. She’s sitting on the couch right now watching Ellen.

Thanks for sharing so vulnerably here. I think you’re feeling quite normal given what you’re facing, and your sharing will allow other dads-to-be to acknowledge and own their feelings. You are offering such a great gift here.

I hope Jane feels better and that all goes smoothly with the house sale. Everything will turn out okay somehow, and most importantly, you already have your little one to love. Nothing can change that!

P.S. Make sure Jane stays hydrated!